Having Kids. Most couples dream about it, some couples get chills just by the thought of it.
Just imagine your “mini-mes” running around, making a mess of everything in the house and thinking of everything as either food or a toy. Adorable isn’t it?!
Or is it?
So, let’s talk about the 3 things you and your partner must discuss before deciding to have kids
ARE YOU BOTH UP FOR THE CHALLENGE?
First and foremost, you have to sit down with your partner and have a frank talk. Do both of you really want to have kids already? If so, consider all things in between. Is your home large enough for your family? Do you have enough savings in the bank to sustain a family with kids’ needs? It would also be a really big help if you open up about your childhood and how you were raised as a child with your partner. This will help you meet in the middle and decide wisely.
HOW MANY KIDS WILL YOU HAVE?
This one variable — the number of kids — will have more impact on the dynamic of your family than almost anything else. You have to think this through very carefully. There are always pros and cons whatever it is you decide to think of which one would best benefit your family’s future.
WOULD YOU LIKE IT TO BE A BOY OR A GIRL?
This should be a non-bearing issue to talk about but let’s face it, men will be men and they always want their firstborn to be a boy. For the men, if it’s a girl, your partner wants to name her Rainbow. Can you get past this? Kidding. Not every detail needs to be hashed out and talked to death.
WHO WILL CARE FOR YOUR CHILD?
In this day and age, the cliche’ of “full-time mom” or “full-time dad” is somewhat not applicable to millennials anymore. Both men and women nowadays are of equal footing and both competitive. If you and your partner have full-time jobs it is very important to discuss whether any of you is willing to give up their jobs and take full care of the kid/s or is it better to get a full-time nanny? What do both of you think about daycare centers? Will this work out for both of you? Think about what’s best for your future kid/s. Compromise is the key.
Give each other a time out.
The thought of having kids might take its toll for some. So even when you have sat down and spoke with your partner, don’t go rushing into the bedroom right away and start the baby factory. It’s important that you and your partner take a breather and give each other time out to assess your decisions. If a full assessment has been done and you think you’re both happy with your decisions then yes, by all means, you can start the processor having kids and starting a full-blown family.