My normally attentive, productive and efficient staff was slacking off and not her usual self. I called her attention and in the middle of our conversation, she burst out crying- letting out gut-wrenching sobs in the process. Yes. It was that dramatic.
She confessed that she’s confused because the lady in red has not yet arrived, and initial prognosis (thank you pregnancy kit), is that she has a bun in the oven. I wasn’t surprised because I knew she had a partner.
I asked her why the tears. She said because she doesn’t know who the father is. She broke up with her boyfriend, and she’s had unprotected sexual encounters with multiple partners. Now, that’s when I gave her the eyebrow raise and a lecture.
Casual sex is something not to be taken lightly for a variety of reasons. Here are some:
Life is hard as it is without children, adding babies to the equation, especially an unplanned one, makes it doubly hard.
UNEXPECTED (AND OFTEN UNWANTED!) EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT
We’ve seen it in movies. And we’ve definitely seen it in real life. Eventually, one of you is bound to fall in love with another, while the other isn’t interested in a relationship, just erm, sex. Who said casual hookups came without emotional baggage?
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
If casual hookups are your thing then, for the love of God, please be protected. And no I’m not talking about birth control pills only because birth control pills don’t and won’t protect you from STDs, HIV, or worst, AIDS.
POTENTIAL SEX SCANDAL
Since it’s a casual hook up, you don’t really know your partner. While to others that element adds to the thrill, it can also up to the risk. How sure are you that there are no recording devices hidden somewhere? Unless you are comfortable with the idea that a video or photo of you may be somewhere on the internet, no. Just don’t do it.
I’ve always been an advocate of the live and let live mantra. Because , you know, YOLO. But applying the YOLO principle to casual hook ups is not just irresponsible, it’s also very unsafe. If you insist and can’t resist a casual hook up, always proceed with caution.
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